Comments on: The “Poof” Phenomenon

By: I Have Dating PTSD. - This Mama’s Dharma

I Have Dating PTSD. - This Mama’s Dharma — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 05:34:10 +0000

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By: One year of single parenthood… - This Mama’s Dharma

One year of single parenthood… - This Mama’s Dharma — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 03:10:46 +0000

[...] I almost forgot to blog about my one year anniversary as a single parent, caught up as I was in the MoTH thing. [...]

By: admin

admin — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 03:53:00 +0000

Oh everyone - thank you so much for your words of solidarity and support. I am holding all your words in my heart, and smiling.

Leah

By: cat

cat — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 21:14:07 +0000

on the one hand: it hurts like hell. ive been there myself and hope never to go there again.

on the other hand: who wants to live small out of fear of getting hurt? Illegitimis non carborundum, right?

hugs to you while you teeter on the verge of finding your happy balance. i’m in town through the holidays and will be up for playdates and mom’s nights out if you’re up for them.

-cat

By: Hanna

Hanna — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:09:12 +0000

Big big hugs. One day a wonderful person will come into your life and all the pain and hurt will be washed away. (at least that’s what I keep telling MYself)

Hang in there. You are so brave.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:20:43 +0000

So sorry to hear this happened. Consider that perhaps he didn’t reject you - maybe he interacts with all women this way. At any rate, what he did was not nice.

I agree that whirlwind romance can be a dangerous thing. I’ve had the best relationship success when it starts in a grounded, slow manner, usually with women I’ve met through friends. The passion can still be there, but it’s built up over time, in real life.

Take time to heal. In the meantime, some innocent flirting can be a very good thing to feel good again.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:13:28 +0000

Remember your previous post that said I’d rather try and fail than never to have tried at all? Remember that, you gave it a shot, you grabbed life by the tail and you’re older and wiser by a few days for it.

We all love you and want the best for you and if MotH treated you this way, well, I for one would like to kick him in the shins!

You’re so brave and strong and I have such admiration for you.

By: PT-LawMom

PT-LawMom — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 04:47:26 +0000

Ouch. I have been there and it hurts soooo much. Especially when you honestly have no clue what just happened or why. (((HUGS))) Hope the pain lessens soon for you and that you are able to wake up and say, “Next!” and keep moving. I know it’s hard. I really don’t understand this phenomenon of men who find it easier to say nothing than to be honest about their feelings (or lack thereof). Take care of yourself.

By: T

Mon, 01 Dec 2008 02:38:04 +0000

Ok, so you know that I know all about this, right?

I agree with everything you’ve written. There is a gift here… somewhere. Sometimes you will see it so clearly that you can feel the joy literally fill your heart. Other times, there will be an ache so deep that you feel like you want to cut your
heart out.

I realize both of these next two lines come from songs but they’re just what helped me:

“Breathe. Just Breathe. ”

“Don’t let some hell-bent heart leave you bitter.”

You can still believe in love. It still believes in you.

Big hugs.

By: G

Sun, 30 Nov 2008 17:24:51 +0000

Hey sweetie,

Hang in there. You are a brave, wonderful, nurturing person and you took a risk. You are still learning, still growing and the right person will come along for you. It will happen.

I think you had a lucky escape! MoTH’s cruelty could have been revealed months or even years into a relationship, and then these surface scratches would have been much deeper wounds.

So, you got out of town, spent time with that super-cute son of yours, had a lesson in what is not love, and get to come back to all of us who adore and miss you! Yayyyyyyyyy!

Onward and upward m’dear.
Love
G