Comments on: Bombs.

By: Hanna

Hanna — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 00:47:02 +0000

I’m dreading this day too. I know it will happen eventually, because my ex is already so involved as “daddy” to his girlfriend’s kids. He also calls her his wife. Its just a matter of time. I’m sorry you have to deal with that emotional rampage.

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 03:39:40 +0000

….you described my biggest fear. Ex with baby with new woman. Even feels scary/weird to write it down. It will change the frontier of your pain thresh hold, I imagine.
I wish you good and positive energy for the processing.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:32:32 +0000

Sad to hear for you. I don’t know how I would react if my ex laid that kind of bomb on me. I don’t want to have anything to do with her, but there would be a reaction I would think.

By: EK

EK — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:47:00 +0000

this part really moved me:
“We are, in some ways, a microcosm of what is happening in the Gaza strip, trying to kill each other with verbal bombs.
It is always the innocent children that pay the highest price for the violence of adults.”
take care.

By: Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com

Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 15:26:57 +0000

This is such a painful and confusing time for you (and Sami). My heart goes out to you. Take good care of you.

By: G

Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:01:33 +0000

I want to focus on one tiny part of what you’ve written, you said that you don’t trust your ex. And you have very, very good reasons not to. This is not a man who is careful of other people, even his own children.

God knows, you have tried. Please try and see what you are doing in a positive light. You are protecting your child - bringing everything you can to a very tough situation. Your compassion, your intuition, and your intelligence are all in play. That is as much as any one person can do - and Sami will never hate you for it.

Stay in the moment, breathe and try and let go of the pain. This too shall pass.

Love and hugs to you,
G

By: T

Wed, 07 Jan 2009 04:48:41 +0000

WOW.

I’m out of words tonight. Just WOW.

I like the last line the best.

I’m posting something similar tonight. I’m feeling sort of lost myself… and not wanting to really date either.

My first instinct is to follow your first instinct. If you do what you think is best right now, you shouldn’t have regrets later. We’re all doing our best with what we know RIGHT NOW. There is no way for you to predict what it will do to Sami a year or twenty years from now. You have to follow your gut. Maybe later, you will know that you were right or you were wrong but by then, it won’t matter. Everything is temporary, as your teacher stated. Neither you nor Sami nor your ex will be the same next month, next year, next decade or hell - even 5 minutes from now.

Be still. Listen. Follow your instinct. And then let it go. Have faith.

All that you can do is love that baby boy with everything you have. The rest will be in Someone Else’s hands.

Thank you for your complete raw honesty. This is exactly why I love reading you.