Comments on: Is Google killing my dating life?

By: Mama Dharma

Mama Dharma — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 04:22:03 +0000

I feel like you all are my cheering squad. Thank you so much. I so appreciate your comments. In the end, it is true. The stuff that is all over the net is a huge part of who I am — not all of who I am, but it’s majorly important to me and any potential mate would have to be supportive of my history and my choices.

Thank you for your kind, thoughtful words, your encouragement, and reminding me that I need to stay true to who I am and walk proud.

By: Bad Mummy

Bad Mummy — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 05:37:41 +0000

I’m a pysch consumer/survivor and always wonder how much I have to joke about my ‘happy pills’ before a guy gets it. Maybe it’s better that I stick on a button on my lapel that reads ‘Ask me about my mental health issues.’

In any case, the cause is worth it and any dude who is scared off by the awesome work you do is not worth your time. It may not be 1st date convo, but if he wants to know because his curiousity was piqued by his google search, he’ll ask.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 18:59:52 +0000

I think your cause is great, but it might indeed be too much for a guy to swallow from google. Better he hears it from you (not necessarily on the first date - whenever it feels right). That way he can see your passion, and separate you from any crazy preconceived notions he might have. You aren’t marked for life - most people are impressed by someone who is passionate about a cause, especially when it’s intensely personal. Don’t give up - just change the rules to work in your favor.

By: MindyMom

MindyMom — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:35:58 +0000

Have a great time at the ball and don’t worry about the stufff that’s out of your control! (like MTM and Google) In some ways I think that stuff on google is a good filter for those I date; if they can’t handle it they can’t handle me!

By: krista

krista — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 03:12:11 +0000

Oh Leah! I think that psych survivors- particularly psych survivor advocates- are wicked awesome. We’re like a special breed of people, seriously. It is actually sort of a quirky and interesting thing about you that makes you more alluring, multi-faceted, and wonderfully soulful and deep. The wounded healers are always the most compassionate. You are a healer in this world. A spiritual person. One who has been through hell and back and lives to not just tell but to fight to make the road less wretched for others. Don’t you see how any fool who googles you and learns this about you should soften and warm in admiration and respect? You need to date men who understand this powerful part of you, and who look at you in appreciation and awe of all that you’ve been though, and all that you are. If some fool googles you and is turned off by what comes up- he is not likely to be the kind of person who would move your soul, who would raise your roof, who would give you the kind of energetic balm you need to inspire your life and create fire and watery peace in your heart.

What comes up when your name is googled is magic, transformation, courage, beauty, strength, and action.

Don’t EVER forget that.

By: Mike

Mike — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 21:05:31 +0000

It’s something we all face at one point or another in our dating life. Do we let our morals and beliefs affect our dating lives. There will be many people who don’t agree with you and let me tell you if they don’t the relationship is destined not to last long. If you are untrue to yourself the relationship will be a sham and also destined for failure. Be yourself and proud of it and a man will love you for it.

By: won

won — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 17:08:55 +0000

You know, I really struggle with the google thing. There is one thing in particular that could be seen that worries me. And then, I remind myself I am not the sum total of the letters on this screen.

Sure, what you might find could be very easy to judge. Yet, when I have the opportunity to share it with people verbally and in person, the impression they are left with is much different than the first set of people just reading it without a clear understanding could walk away with.

So, I continue to hold my head up and constantly remind myself that I am who I am…this I know, and that is what really matters.

Whatever you find on google has more history than is shown on these pages on your computer….

By: G

Sun, 18 Jan 2009 16:27:12 +0000

Oh - and I forgot: you’re gorgeous too!

By: G

Sun, 18 Jan 2009 16:26:28 +0000

Yep! Everyone above has said it perfectly. You’re going the ball!! Yayyyy. And, the man that can accept you for the wonderful, brave, funny, loving, healthy person that you are - is the man worth waiting for. Onward and upward m’dear.

Hugs
G

By: Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com

Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:34:25 +0000

Who cares what’s up with MTM? You’re going to the ball!

It’s the people with “zero Google” who concern me. You’re an advocate for humane and effective care for the mentally ill.

Be proud and, please, continue those efforts.