Comments on: Officially full of s–t http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/ one single mother. one spririted preschooler. oy -- what a life. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:24:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Mike http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/#comment-596 Mike Mon, 05 Jan 2009 20:28:05 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=430#comment-596 We may not be with our ex's now want to. However there is a place that will wish that it worked out. That it fufullied your dreams. It takes a minimum of 2 years to get back to normal so be gentle on yourself. We may not be with our ex’s now want to. However there is a place that will wish that it worked out. That it fufullied your dreams. It takes a minimum of 2 years to get back to normal so be gentle on yourself.

]]> By: single mom seeking http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/#comment-595 single mom seeking Mon, 05 Jan 2009 18:04:50 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=430#comment-595 You crack me up in the best way, re: your optimism in the face of so much emotion. I hear you!! I'd love to hear what your online profile says... I keep re-working mine. Re: your ex, it's his anger that urges me to say to you: "be careful." I know that other readers have suggested that you begin with supervised visits.... and he's able to control his temper in front of you/your son, then bravo! He will deserve real parenting time. You crack me up in the best way, re: your optimism in the face of so much emotion. I hear you!!

I’d love to hear what your online profile says… I keep re-working mine.

Re: your ex, it’s his anger that urges me to say to you: “be careful.”

I know that other readers have suggested that you begin with supervised visits…. and he’s able to control his temper in front of you/your son, then bravo! He will deserve real parenting time.

]]> By: dadshouse http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/#comment-594 dadshouse Mon, 05 Jan 2009 14:57:13 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=430#comment-594 Your date/playdate sounds promising - so much more real than an online blind meet and greet! You don't have to make it anything more than it was. If you had fun, do it again, and don't categorize it or attach expectations. As for your ex - I know you feel like he reject you and Sami, but that is your feeling. His feeling might be different. He might have rejected something deep inside himself. Your date/playdate sounds promising - so much more real than an online blind meet and greet! You don’t have to make it anything more than it was. If you had fun, do it again, and don’t categorize it or attach expectations.

As for your ex - I know you feel like he reject you and Sami, but that is your feeling. His feeling might be different. He might have rejected something deep inside himself.

]]> By: eve http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/#comment-593 eve Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:55:11 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=430#comment-593 I felt the same way about the Udvar-Hazy Center, especially when I saw that they had the Enola Gay there. I think it's an inherently messy situation. But, remember that you're not responsible for his volatility. If he reacts in a volatile way, that's his issue. Much easier said than done, I know. Happy New Year! Eve I felt the same way about the Udvar-Hazy Center, especially when I saw that they had the Enola Gay there.

I think it’s an inherently messy situation. But, remember that you’re not responsible for his volatility. If he reacts in a volatile way, that’s his issue. Much easier said than done, I know.

Happy New Year!

Eve

]]> By: Julie http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/#comment-592 Julie Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:41:03 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=430#comment-592 A small snippet of advice: Do what you have to do to create a situation that's right for Sami, and practice being unattached to the outcome of your actions as far as H's response is concerned. You have no control over what he does and are not accountable for his actions. At some point Sami will need the regularity of a routine he can count on, as all kids do. If H can't handle it, the best you can do is help Sami cope with that. Their souls have their own lessons to learn from one another. Also google "Barry Bricklin", the premier custody evaluator in the United States. Website is chock full of great, scientifically tested and validated information for parents in all types of custody situations and you should be able to find information regarding logistics as well as how to best parent Sami through this. He's a psychologist and scientist who really knows his s*&^. And BREATHE! Best to you. A small snippet of advice: Do what you have to do to create a situation that’s right for Sami, and practice being unattached to the outcome of your actions as far as H’s response is concerned. You have no control over what he does and are not accountable for his actions. At some point Sami will need the regularity of a routine he can count on, as all kids do. If H can’t handle it, the best you can do is help Sami cope with that. Their souls have their own lessons to learn from one another.

Also google “Barry Bricklin”, the premier custody evaluator in the United States. Website is chock full of great, scientifically tested and validated information for parents in all types of custody situations and you should be able to find information regarding logistics as well as how to best parent Sami through this. He’s a psychologist and scientist who really knows his s*&^.

And BREATHE! Best to you.

]]> By: T http://mamadharma.net/2009/01/officially/#comment-591 T Mon, 05 Jan 2009 04:08:08 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=430#comment-591 I don't blame you at all for trying to impose order. Its the only way you've been able to survive thus far. Hang in there, girl. I have no words of wisdom that you haven't already found yourself. Plus, I'm pooped! :) Big hugs! I don’t blame you at all for trying to impose order. Its the only way you’ve been able to survive thus far.

Hang in there, girl.

I have no words of wisdom that you haven’t already found yourself.

Plus, I’m pooped!

:)

Big hugs!

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