Comments on: Metamorphosis http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/ one single mother. one spririted preschooler. oy -- what a life. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:53:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: admin http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-781 admin Wed, 11 Feb 2009 03:15:09 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-781 Thank you so much for the comments and encouragement, everyone. This experience really showed me that no matter how much I might be lusting, I really just want to be with someone who at least has relationship potential. I've been sitting with it for a few days now and it's been a powerful realization. But you never know until you try something...I'm definitely learning as I go! I'm with you, Dad's. I guess I am really looking for a partner, not just an FWB :) Thank you so much for the comments and encouragement, everyone.

This experience really showed me that no matter how much I might be lusting, I really just want to be with someone who at least has relationship potential. I’ve been sitting with it for a few days now and it’s been a powerful realization. But you never know until you try something…I’m definitely learning as I go!

I’m with you, Dad’s. I guess I am really looking for a partner, not just an FWB :)

]]> By: Karen Maezen Miller http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-774 Karen Maezen Miller Mon, 09 Feb 2009 19:53:09 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-774 Of course. Right on schedule. I have another Girl Scout meeting tonight. How things change by themselves. The Girl Scout way. Of course. Right on schedule. I have another Girl Scout meeting tonight. How things change by themselves. The Girl Scout way.

]]> By: dadshouse http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-773 dadshouse Mon, 09 Feb 2009 17:24:31 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-773 Yeah, hooray for you for getting your needs met. I have mixed feelings about sleepovers. I haven't slept over with a woman in ages, for the reasons you said (either she or I don't feel comfortable with that all-night intimacy), and I have to say, I totally miss all-night sleepovers. I am craving that in my life! Guess I need a girlfriend. Yeah, hooray for you for getting your needs met. I have mixed feelings about sleepovers. I haven’t slept over with a woman in ages, for the reasons you said (either she or I don’t feel comfortable with that all-night intimacy), and I have to say, I totally miss all-night sleepovers. I am craving that in my life! Guess I need a girlfriend.

]]> By: MindyMom http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-772 MindyMom Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:28:55 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-772 First, YAY for you! The intimacy part will come when you're ready. Don't worry about it for now. "Talented and very attentive" is a good thing. Be nice to that boy! First, YAY for you!

The intimacy part will come when you’re ready. Don’t worry about it for now.

“Talented and very attentive” is a good thing. Be nice to that boy!

]]> By: Mary http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-771 Mary Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:26:29 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-771 Sami is supposed to be living & experiencing separately from you. It is a good thing, a growth for both of you. Like I know this, it is my first time reading your blog :-), but in general.....a positive thing. The numbness, yeah, plenty can relate to that on one level or another. I have 1 mil things I put before authentic "relationship" love when it comes to a guy. ~Mary Sami is supposed to be living & experiencing separately from you. It is a good thing, a growth for both of you. Like I know this, it is my first time reading your blog :-), but in general…..a positive thing.
The numbness, yeah, plenty can relate to that on one level or another. I have 1 mil things I put before authentic “relationship” love when it comes to a guy. ~Mary

]]> By: Mike http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-770 Mike Mon, 09 Feb 2009 13:49:28 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-770 That's pretty funny since I've tried to take a break in dating for over a month now and I've had women ask me out. Maybe it's the coming Valentines' day or flouride in the water who can say what's causing it. That’s pretty funny since I’ve tried to take a break in dating for over a month now and I’ve had women ask me out. Maybe it’s the coming Valentines’ day or flouride in the water who can say what’s causing it.

]]> By: Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-769 Dr. Leah www.singlemommyhood.com Mon, 09 Feb 2009 11:48:16 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-769 Sami is living part of his life separately from you. You know "the story" (safe), but lack "the details", which he will fill in with time and maturity. This is part of raising our kids to which we adjust, but not always easily. Good for you for concentrating on what you need during those "not mommy" times. Sami is living part of his life separately from you. You know “the story” (safe), but lack “the details”, which he will fill in with time and maturity. This is part of raising our kids to which we adjust, but not always easily.

Good for you for concentrating on what you need during those “not mommy” times.

]]> By: T http://mamadharma.net/2009/02/metamorphosis/#comment-767 T Mon, 09 Feb 2009 04:26:41 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=516#comment-767 Wow. You go girl! "Talented and very attentive" sounds good to me! Secret lives... so true. But you need to find you in that secret life. You are with Sami to influence and parent but you do not need to give up who you are to do that. I love your awareness and strength of conviction. Proud of you for knowing when to serve your own needs. Part of your unavailability may also be why these other men have been unavailable to you. That's ok. Accept where you are now. You will be open to a deeper intimacy at some point. This is all new and intriguing to you right now. Enjoy it while you can. I'll be off dreaming of "talented and very attentive." Wow. You go girl! “Talented and very attentive” sounds good to me!

Secret lives… so true. But you need to find you in that secret life. You are with Sami to influence and parent but you do not need to give up who you are to do that.

I love your awareness and strength of conviction. Proud of you for knowing when to serve your own needs. Part of your unavailability may also be why these other men have been unavailable to you.

That’s ok. Accept where you are now. You will be open to a deeper intimacy at some point. This is all new and intriguing to you right now. Enjoy it while you can.

I’ll be off dreaming of “talented and very attentive.”

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