Comments on: Big boys don’t cry… http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/ one single mother. one spririted preschooler. oy -- what a life. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:30:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Nora http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-1034 Nora Fri, 15 May 2009 05:20:06 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-1034 I always like Where the Wild Things Are for it seems like it strikes a good place between aggression needs and affection needs. I always like Where the Wild Things Are for it seems like it strikes a good place between aggression needs and affection needs.

]]> By: Gianna http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-996 Gianna Fri, 24 Apr 2009 19:04:55 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-996 what is being a wuss?? sounds like an invalidation of emotion to me...emotions are emotions...making people feel shame for them is not healthy. what is being a wuss?? sounds like an invalidation of emotion to me…emotions are emotions…making people feel shame for them is not healthy.

]]> By: dadshouse http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-986 dadshouse Thu, 23 Apr 2009 07:58:43 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-986 I'm a man, and I cry on occasion - during movies, certain songs, http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/04/02/pass-the-kleenex-im-tearing-up/ That said, when I see my 13 year old son cry, I want him to dry the tears and toughen up. Yes, crying is okay. But there's a difference between being emotional (good cry) and being a wuss (bad cry). My daughter never cries. She's super strong physically and emotionally (and mentally super smart!) Is it good? Bad? Who knows. It is what it is. And I agree it is confusing - especially when you're raising a child. Just follow your gut. I’m a man, and I cry on occasion - during movies, certain songs, http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/04/02/pass-the-kleenex-im-tearing-up/

That said, when I see my 13 year old son cry, I want him to dry the tears and toughen up. Yes, crying is okay. But there’s a difference between being emotional (good cry) and being a wuss (bad cry).

My daughter never cries. She’s super strong physically and emotionally (and mentally super smart!)

Is it good? Bad? Who knows. It is what it is. And I agree it is confusing - especially when you’re raising a child.

Just follow your gut.

]]> By: Mike http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-985 Mike Wed, 22 Apr 2009 19:22:22 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-985 Yes it's hard raising a boy. There is such a hardening process in life for them. There's a great book 200 Ways to Raise a Boy's Emotional Intelligence. I read it when my son was young and I have to admit it helped me too. Yes it’s hard raising a boy. There is such a hardening process in life for them. There’s a great book 200 Ways to Raise a Boy’s Emotional Intelligence. I read it when my son was young and I have to admit it helped me too.

]]> By: chris http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-984 chris Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:44:29 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-984 i think robin morgan has written some essays on a feminist raising for a boy. i read it before having kids so i have no idea how good it is by my current parenting standards :-) every one cries. i think robin morgan has written some essays on a feminist raising for a boy. i read it before having kids so i have no idea how good it is by my current parenting standards :-)

every one cries.

]]> By: T http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-983 T Wed, 22 Apr 2009 16:30:29 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-983 Wow. They are our greatest teachers, aren't they? I do cry in front of my children. Not every time but sometimes, yes. I want them also to know that its ok to let it out. Because bottling it in makes things much worse. We cry and then we wash the tears away with a bath or shower. We call it "washing the grouchies away!" You are doing your best. And he will too. Wow. They are our greatest teachers, aren’t they?

I do cry in front of my children. Not every time but sometimes, yes. I want them also to know that its ok to let it out. Because bottling it in makes things much worse.

We cry and then we wash the tears away with a bath or shower. We call it “washing the grouchies away!”

You are doing your best. And he will too.

]]> By: Gianna http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/big-boys-dont-cry/#comment-982 Gianna Wed, 22 Apr 2009 10:54:35 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=585#comment-982 <i>Baby boy, it’s ok to cry. </i> and so this made me cry. what a lucky boy he is to have such a mama. Baby boy, it’s ok to cry.

and so this made me cry. what a lucky boy he is to have such a mama.

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