Comments on: Hooking up…

By: James

James — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 23:52:25 +0000

I believe long term romance is artificial, something two people actively create, as opposed to being this natural thing we’re supposed to do. The data of male/female behavior and failed marriages seems to support this.

Hell, it’s so easy to meet a mate, but it’s so god awfully hard to stay with one. Maybe it goes beyond choice, it could be genetic.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 04:57:29 +0000

I do not find that one changes the sitution by deliberately letting go of the clinging, but by the equivalent of a deep breath and a look around as if to ask OK, what are we working with here. switching the valve on the paper bag of wind that is the mind from keeping stuff inside where it is safe to outflowing into the world. it is less work than letting go or fixing things. it’s shifting to the half grin knowing that things can’t be escaped or fixed.

Yours in struggle,

Chris

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 18:56:47 +0000

I always wish I could enjoy hooking up, but atlas I can’t. Repeated sex with a person I’m not building anything with leads me to not want sex with them anymore.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 11:50:57 +0000

I hear you. I have been you. I am there in that space. Thought I could do that, too.

It is no comfort in these words: but it all passes away.

But it was me that I needed to love and have the bestest, most awesome, true and deep relationship with. Boring old me (and Mr C - my vibrator).

And then, then when I did not expect it.

Love found me.

By: MommaSunshine

MommaSunshine — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 10:25:20 +0000

You know, if you find the right one, he’s not going to be scared off by you coming on “too strong” or “falling too hard”, in my opinion.

You’re right, though, there is no formula. And you know, you feel what you feel right now. I think it’s best to be honest about that with yourself…