Comments on: The pull of self-pity http://mamadharma.net/2009/12/the-pull-of-self-pity/ one single mother. one spririted preschooler. oy -- what a life. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:17:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Jodi Anderson http://mamadharma.net/2009/12/the-pull-of-self-pity/#comment-1305 Jodi Anderson Sun, 03 Jan 2010 22:56:25 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=699#comment-1305 Hi. I came from Mama-Om's site and what a great recommendation this link to your site turned out to be for me. I have these various ailments, mostly health like type I diabetes, and when other things go wrong, adding to my already overwhelming life, I think that I do tend to feel some self-pity. (That's an odd sentence. Sorry about that.) Thank you for the reminder to pull myself out of that. I do try to learn from various misfortunates and think of things for which I am grateful. Your post took me one step further on that journey. I have been reading and looking at photos of the Sami people, and so I'm particularly fond of that name. ;-) Hi. I came from Mama-Om’s site and what a great recommendation this link to your site turned out to be for me.

I have these various ailments, mostly health like type I diabetes, and when other things go wrong, adding to my already overwhelming life, I think that I do tend to feel some self-pity. (That’s an odd sentence. Sorry about that.) Thank you for the reminder to pull myself out of that. I do try to learn from various misfortunates and think of things for which I am grateful. Your post took me one step further on that journey.

I have been reading and looking at photos of the Sami people, and so I’m particularly fond of that name. ;-)

]]> By: Genju http://mamadharma.net/2009/12/the-pull-of-self-pity/#comment-1278 Genju Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:22:03 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=699#comment-1278 Beautiful teachings. Thank you. One of my teachers says we women so love to "tuck in" when we're hurting. I feel the contraction when Mara throws a spear at me. So hard to believe that when the heart is open it just flies through. Working my way through the women Buddhist Bloggers list. Such a gift! metta, Genju Beautiful teachings. Thank you. One of my teachers says we women so love to “tuck in” when we’re hurting. I feel the contraction when Mara throws a spear at me. So hard to believe that when the heart is open it just flies through.

Working my way through the women Buddhist Bloggers list. Such a gift!

metta,
Genju

]]> By: Liz http://mamadharma.net/2009/12/the-pull-of-self-pity/#comment-1276 Liz Tue, 15 Dec 2009 04:12:06 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=699#comment-1276 I too, have been plagued with self pity. I feel a loneliness that overwhelms me and consumes my thoughts. I can't redirect my mind, so I redirect the thought pattern itself and keep telling myself the real reasons why I'm thinking that way. (I've been tempted to call my ex, just to have someone, just to not be alone. So I have to remind myself what life was like with him and that it's not the life I need.) I don't have many friends, and the ones I do have live far away or are busy with their own lives. So I try and make a point to send texts and emails, reaching out and connecting. The loneliness I feel isn't for a partner, it's for connection. To have someone to talk to, someone who genuinely cares. Someone to reach out to when I feel like I'm on edge. It's a vicious cycle! I too, have been plagued with self pity. I feel a loneliness that overwhelms me and consumes my thoughts. I can’t redirect my mind, so I redirect the thought pattern itself and keep telling myself the real reasons why I’m thinking that way. (I’ve been tempted to call my ex, just to have someone, just to not be alone. So I have to remind myself what life was like with him and that it’s not the life I need.)

I don’t have many friends, and the ones I do have live far away or are busy with their own lives. So I try and make a point to send texts and emails, reaching out and connecting.

The loneliness I feel isn’t for a partner, it’s for connection. To have someone to talk to, someone who genuinely cares. Someone to reach out to when I feel like I’m on edge.

It’s a vicious cycle!

]]> By: Stacy (Mama-Om) http://mamadharma.net/2009/12/the-pull-of-self-pity/#comment-1275 Stacy (Mama-Om) Tue, 15 Dec 2009 02:17:44 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=699#comment-1275 Super lovely thoughts.... ones that are resonating with me. I have been practicing redirecting my mind. It's amazing to me how easy it is for me to be in a contracted state or wrapped up in the drama of emotion. I can't wait to see the video! Blessings ... and namaste, Stacy Super lovely thoughts…. ones that are resonating with me. I have been practicing redirecting my mind. It’s amazing to me how easy it is for me to be in a contracted state or wrapped up in the drama of emotion.

I can’t wait to see the video!

Blessings … and namaste,
Stacy

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