Comments on: Would you date a single mom with a big-ass tattoo?

By: matthew c

matthew c — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 01:18:10 +0000

I highly commend you on your 8 months of non dating. It gives you time to reflect on what is truely important to you. Especially what you are looking for in life and a partner. Having a tattoo should not matter if the guy truely likes you. He should be able to look past that if he is the right guy!

By: Karissa

Karissa — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 02:11:16 +0000

I have a pretty big lotus flower on my left shoulder that I got at age 29. Sometimes I regret it, sometimes not. My sweetheart doesn’t mind it at all. We are both former punk-rockers and he rebelled by not getting any ink at all. He says he wants to be the only one we know without a tattoo

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:47:56 +0000

I planned on doing the same thing as you this year - to make sure to love and appreciate myself, instead of hoping a (specific) man would do so… and I’ve failed miserably (although I’ve lived that way for most of my life, I found myself thinking that it would be nice to keep in shape for someone else for a change, which annoys me as I write it). I can’t believe how much of my life this year, has been wasted on emotions of a man who messed with me - he started to step up in the way that I’d hoped, but it was too late, and he did it for the wrong reasons. He also acted like an @ss, which makes me kick myself even more for having wasted so much emotional energy on him this year. I could probably find myself dates if I weren’t so isolated, and/or if I added myself to dating sites, but I can’t be bothered.

I’m glad you’re doing well this year.

By: trinity67

trinity67 — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:50:40 +0000

If I found the woman with a big-ass tattoo to be attractive, smart and kind then the big-ass tatto would be of no consequence in fact, the big-ass tattoo would only add to the attraction factor. :o)

By: Ro-Ro

Ro-Ro — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 18:32:53 +0000

I thought I was brave giving up shopping for a year, but self-imposed celibacy is much tougher! That said, as a single mama in a rural Ireland, more months go by than I’d like to admit without much male attention.

I bet your tattoo is gorgeous, but I know what you mean. If it makes you feel any better, my nose ring has been stuck on my face for 7 years now! I can relate to your feelings about changing as you grow older and wanting to be accepted as you are. It can be a lonely place waiting to meet that special person to share our soul journey with. I thought I’d found mine, but he has moved on. As you said, it helps to stay in the present and keep on breathing… let it in, let it out…

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 03:32:34 +0000

Well, beings as I LOVE that tattoo, I nodded my head emphatically when I read your title. As the proud owner of a large arm tattoo, though, I understand your hesitation. It was SO cool when I did, so now, so ME, so needed - lord knows I needed to direct that pain somewhere else, some outward place. But now, well, yes, it’s beautiful, but I’m unsure of it too.

So, hang in there. Those of us who love you for you don’t care about the package - big, small, pierced, inked, none of the above - it’s your heart and soul that matters and the beauty that you carry around each and every day cannot be hidden or overlooked and the right person, with the ‘right’ kind of eyes will come along soon enough.

By: Kelly O

Kelly O — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 18:45:16 +0000

I would totally date a single mom with a big-ass tattoo. What’s more, I think the guy who would, too, is probably awesome. The guy who would not: probably pretty lame.

By: Momma Sunshine

Momma Sunshine — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 09:54:03 +0000

The right man will come along at the right time, who will love everything about you. Promise.

In the meantime, enjoy these last 4 months.

*hugs*

By: nathan

nathan — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:59:45 +0000

It’s funny - you sound in a very similar place as I have been lately. Same age - 34. Single. Wondering what others are going to think of you when you get out into the dating world again.

After several years of both being a teacher, and founding a non-profit organization, I walked away from it all, and now am unemployed. I sometimes wonder if women will simply see me as another lazy slouch, even though I know neither of those words would fit for me. In fact, my zen teacher told me to enjoy a bit of time off, and even suggested that I delegate some of my sangha work to others for now.

I’m not used to being in this place - having little to hold on to or offer in terms of ready packaged identity - and I can see that for you some as well, from your year off from dating to not drinking, and even that tattoo which both fits and doesn’t fit who you are.

I’m kind of convinced that very few of us really are aware and awaken enough to understand what it is we actually need in a romantic relationship. And so, perhaps that offers some solace when someone rejects you for superficial reasons. And maybe it also offers an opening to accept someone in your life that isn’t who you thought you’d end up with.