Comments for This Mama's Dharma http://mamadharma.net one single mother. one spririted preschooler. oy -- what a life. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:32:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 Comment on The Nourishment List by krista http://mamadharma.net/2010/02/the-nourishment-list/#comment-1350 krista Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:41:31 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=734#comment-1350 where are you!? I miss you! where are you!? I miss you!

]]> Comment on A week with my son by Jenny http://mamadharma.net/2009/12/a-week-with-my-son/#comment-1345 Jenny Mon, 15 Feb 2010 12:37:30 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=714#comment-1345 What you say really resonates with me - and my kids are all grown up! Amazingly - shockingly - they've grown into incredible, wise, compassionate people. My usual line is "I must have done SOMETHING right..." - but your experiences (on this blog, and listening to your spoken-word pieces) have given me a little green shoot of something like pride. Thank you. What you say really resonates with me - and my kids are all grown up! Amazingly - shockingly - they’ve grown into incredible, wise, compassionate people. My usual line is “I must have done SOMETHING right…” - but your experiences (on this blog, and listening to your spoken-word pieces) have given me a little green shoot of something like pride. Thank you.

]]> Comment on Acceptance by Jessica http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/acceptance/#comment-1333 Jessica Thu, 28 Jan 2010 02:08:52 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=730#comment-1333 Thank you so much for your honesty. It makes it much easier to hear the thoughts that echo in my head day after day from another. The best encouragement that I can offer is that the only way to acceptance, is to FEEL, and it sounds like that is just what you are doing. Thank you so much for your honesty. It makes it much easier to hear the thoughts that echo in my head day after day from another. The best encouragement that I can offer is that the only way to acceptance, is to FEEL, and it sounds like that is just what you are doing.

]]> Comment on I Have Dating PTSD. by Learning ... http://mamadharma.net/2009/04/i-have-dating-ptsd/#comment-1331 Learning ... Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:52:18 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=589#comment-1331 Oh, how I can relate. I have vowed to myself to SLOWLY get to know each and every man I decide to date going forward. I just had an unpleasant experience with a complete phony that I met online (the "relationship" site). He had all the lines down pat. He's a pro, a player, a jerk, a user ..... I had my suspicions, but was giving him the benefit of the doubt and decided to test him -- a test he failed miserably. This man continues to be online preying on divorced women .... he's got his "act" and he's been practicing it for years. Planted seeds early on of a future together, talking about going on a vacation together -- made himself out to be such a good guy ... goes to church, cooks for his 84 year old mom, blah, blah, blah. Everything was "talk" and there was very little effort on his part to work on any type of a real relationship. Loved to text, such a lame way to communicate. Said he would call and then didn't call. Complimented me on how gorgeous and sweet I am .... how he was so glad we met and he didn't think there was anyone out there like me anymore. Intimacy was the only thing on his agenda. I have learned so much from this past experience. I definitely will not bring any intimacy into the relationship early on .... this will sift out the good guys from the jerks. John M. from Ambler, PA you are one of those jerks ... and I feel very sorry for you -- what a sad way to live. Oh, how I can relate. I have vowed to myself to SLOWLY get to know each and every man I decide to date going forward. I just had an unpleasant experience with a complete phony that I met online (the “relationship” site). He had all the lines down pat. He’s a pro, a player, a jerk, a user ….. I had my suspicions, but was giving him the benefit of the doubt and decided to test him — a test he failed miserably. This man continues to be online preying on divorced women …. he’s got his “act” and he’s been practicing it for years. Planted seeds early on of a future together, talking about going on a vacation together — made himself out to be such a good guy … goes to church, cooks for his 84 year old mom, blah, blah, blah. Everything was “talk” and there was very little effort on his part to work on any type of a real relationship. Loved to text, such a lame way to communicate. Said he would call and then didn’t call. Complimented me on how gorgeous and sweet I am …. how he was so glad we met and he didn’t think there was anyone out there like me anymore. Intimacy was the only thing on his agenda. I have learned so much from this past experience. I definitely will not bring any intimacy into the relationship early on …. this will sift out the good guys from the jerks. John M. from Ambler, PA you are one of those jerks … and I feel very sorry for you — what a sad way to live.

]]> Comment on TYOLMP - the video by kitty http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/tyolmp-the-video/#comment-1329 kitty Fri, 22 Jan 2010 01:54:39 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=717#comment-1329 your video is very, very courageous and insightful. i'm so glad i watched it. you're totally awesome. best, kitty your video is very, very courageous and insightful. i’m so glad i watched it. you’re totally awesome. best, kitty

]]> Comment on Acceptance by kitty http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/acceptance/#comment-1328 kitty Fri, 22 Jan 2010 01:47:53 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=730#comment-1328 this was hard for me to read. my husband of 13 years is having an affair, and i just threw him out monday. i found you by googling "dharma sitting with sadness." i'm working really hard on acceptance right now, getting better every day - but i empathize with your anxiety and acute loneliness. momma sunshine is right: there really are no magic answers. all one can do is sit with the discomfort and the suffering and know that none of us are really alone. every feeling passes, eventually. thanks for sharing your thoughts. xo kitty this was hard for me to read. my husband of 13 years is having an affair, and i just threw him out monday. i found you by googling “dharma sitting with sadness.” i’m working really hard on acceptance right now, getting better every day - but i empathize with your anxiety and acute loneliness. momma sunshine is right: there really are no magic answers. all one can do is sit with the discomfort and the suffering and know that none of us are really alone. every feeling passes, eventually. thanks for sharing your thoughts. xo kitty

]]> Comment on Acceptance by Momma Sunshine http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/acceptance/#comment-1326 Momma Sunshine Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:01:53 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=730#comment-1326 Hang in there. I know that feeling that you're talking about. My ex has replaced me (with a former close friend, I might add) and even though I have moved on with my own life, I still feel this strange, empty pang when I know that they are all together, the big happy family, and I am all alone. I also realize that it's about me, and learning acceptance, as you said. Take it easy on yourself...these things take time. There are no magic answers. *hugs* Hang in there.

I know that feeling that you’re talking about. My ex has replaced me (with a former close friend, I might add) and even though I have moved on with my own life, I still feel this strange, empty pang when I know that they are all together, the big happy family, and I am all alone.

I also realize that it’s about me, and learning acceptance, as you said.

Take it easy on yourself…these things take time. There are no magic answers.

*hugs*

]]> Comment on Acceptance by krista http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/acceptance/#comment-1324 krista Sun, 17 Jan 2010 04:03:51 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=730#comment-1324 "I will never be satisfied, with myself or anyone else, until I do some honest, inner work." Yep. Me too. I'm with you. Acute loneliness and not getting over someone and accepting reality (in my case, it is paul- aka the musician). As for the year of loving yourself passionately- I want to try that too, but am not ready. I'm so all over the map. How about I just passionately love you during your YOLMP. I'm on your sidelines cheering you on, and being inspired by you. xo. “I will never be satisfied, with myself or anyone else, until I do some honest, inner work.”

Yep. Me too. I’m with you. Acute loneliness and not getting over someone and accepting reality (in my case, it is paul- aka the musician).

As for the year of loving yourself passionately- I want to try that too, but am not ready. I’m so all over the map. How about I just passionately love you during your YOLMP. I’m on your sidelines cheering you on, and being inspired by you.

xo.

]]> Comment on Strange and Wonderful Days by krista http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/strange-days/#comment-1317 krista Sat, 09 Jan 2010 21:47:06 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=724#comment-1317 I think it's awesome what you are doing too- I'm loving myself passionately too this year- and definitely cutting back on my man madness. You're inspiring me in your quest! I think it’s awesome what you are doing too- I’m loving myself passionately too this year- and definitely cutting back on my man madness. You’re inspiring me in your quest!

]]> Comment on TYOLMP - the video by admin http://mamadharma.net/2010/01/tyolmp-the-video/#comment-1313 admin Tue, 05 Jan 2010 19:01:47 +0000 http://mamadharma.net/?p=717#comment-1313 Thanks to you both. I really appreciate the kind words. I am so grateful for the blogosphere and all the wisdom, authenticity and support that you all bring. :) Thanks to you both. I really appreciate the kind words. I am so grateful for the blogosphere and all the wisdom, authenticity and support that you all bring. :)

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